Grief is real, and so is the abundance that comes when you let go and make space for something Nu.
Letting go of something that no longer aligns with you is often easier said than done. It requires confronting the grief that comes with releasing what once felt secure or meaningful. And when grief sneaks up on you because of something outside your control, it can feel even heavier.
Grief isn’t a one-and-done event; it’s a whole process—a complex web of feelings that often surface unpredictably, demanding your attention. Sometimes we fear fully experiencing grief because it seems like an endless void, something that will consume us if we let it in. We worry we’ll get stuck in it, or worse, that it will appear at the most inconvenient times. And listen, it might just show up unannounced! But that doesn’t mean you’ll be forever lost in its grip.
The truth is, grief must be processed. You won’t be trapped unless you choose to stay there. You learn to navigate it by building the skills to acknowledge and live through it. Remember, your internal world is within your control.
The Hidden Grief of Letting Go
I’ll never forget the unexpected wave of grief I faced when I packed up to leave Phoenix. It was strange because I was so ready to go. The move felt aligned and necessary, but there I was, on the floor, surrounded by clothes I couldn’t take with me, weeping like a child whose toys had been snatched away. Yes, clothes had me spiraling! Those wide-leg jeans I scored from Target and the Nordstrom dress that hugged me perfectly—they felt irreplaceable.
It hit me that these clothes symbolized an identity I was leaving behind. In that moment, I clung to them, overwhelmed by fears like, “What will I have? How will I replace this? I spent so much, now I’ll have to spend more!” But I had no choice. Delta wasn’t about to let me pack extra suitcases for free, and my entire move was about shedding baggage, not adding more.
So, I let myself cry. I reached out to a friend who joked that I was the African Carrie Bradshaw as she adopted my clothes and shoes into her wardrobe. Another friend came over, sitting on the floor with me, holding space while I wept and packed what I could. It was raw and messy, but I honored it.
The Paradox of Loss and Abundance
Here’s the magic: Letting go is a leap of faith, and though it often brings grief, that grief can be a doorway to abundance. Sometimes, you have to release the old to make room for the Nu. It’s rarely easy, but it’s often necessary.
When I arrived in NYC, the universe responded in ways that blew my mind. My family showered me with brand-new shoes, coats, clothes, and accessories—many still with tags! They had no idea what I had just gone through, yet they showed up in ways that shattered my doubts. It was unimaginable. Even though I couldn’t see it at the time, releasing those things in Phoenix had made space for something greater.
Grief is real, but so is the abundance that comes when you make room for what’s next.
If you’re navigating grief during a season of transition—whether by choice or as a result of life’s unpredictable realities—honor the grief that arises. Let yourself weep; it’s a necessary part of allowing things to move through you. And also, choose to stay open to the magic and opportunities that await. Trust that nothing happens without a deeper purpose. This season could be your catalyst to something profound, greater than anything you’ve known or imagined.
Letting go isn’t just releasing; it’s creating space for the Nu to come through. So let it.
xoxo,
Nu
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